Few Experiences of Life

I was thinking of a topic for writing a post in my blog and then it suddenly struck me to write about my experiences in life which i have faced till now. I am just penning down my thoughts in a abstract way. This may not be something new but I am trying to present this in my way of observing the experiences which i have faced till now.

I am starting with one of the most important thing and which i have given it my previous post Positive Thinking. I have already given that in detail in the previous post so I am not going to touch that topic much. This is something which cannot be contradicted and which is not new to all of us.

Next thing which is tightly coupled with the above is Boldness while handling things and while speaking with others. Boldness in handling things is important as if we are a coward we will not be able to handle things easily and we will be branded as an underdog. Even if we are nervous initially we need to act as if you are bold so that we will tend to be bold from the next time. Here I am quoting wordings of Chanakya which impressed me a lot :
"Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be venomous."
I must also mention here that boldness also includes accepting the mistakes done by us, then only we will try to rectify them and we don't tend to commit mistakes in future.

Next I want to discuss about another characteristic, Whistle Blowing, which coupled with boldness. This is something which is important as we cannot simply accept all things which happens in front of us. We need to do Whistle Blowing wherever we feel something is going out of place and where we have the gut feeling that someone is going against what is the right thing. This characteristic cannot come just like that if we are not bold.

Next is something which I am going to discuss is something very important in life, Friendship. We need to choose our friends correctly, we just can't be friends just like that. This is something which I have learnt in a harder way in my life. Friend is someone who is there with us in need and whom we can believe and share our thoughts. Here I want to mention about one important thing which we need to consider while selecting friends, "Dont believe in person who makes promises and not keeping them up and believe those who keep up the promises". We also need to be careful while sharing our sorrows or weaknesses to those who we consider as friends unless you feel that they are really caring about you. This can be easily found out as one who is really concerned, immediately comes for our help and help us out from coming out of our sorrows and overcoming our weaknesses. I want to give my favorite quote here "A friend in need is a friend indeed".

One important thing which I am going to discuss and which is a very pain thing is that "Do not let out words unless you are confident that what you speak is 100% right". If not it will lead to destruction of image. This is because a man is judged by the speech and moreover truth behind what he speaks. If this is not followed then it may lead to loosing of confidence of the person and finally it may lead to loss of friendships.

Out my experiences of life one major thing which we all tend to fall prey easily is Backbiting and double crossing. This is something which is very common and we all know about that, but still become a victim for that. Backbiting is something very common among both. We may feel a person that he is good, but he may posses this quality. This is more common now a days as people tend to come up by suppressing others and about taking advantage of the weakness of others. I was also a victim for this a hell lot of times. This makes me quote about something which was advised by my mom, "Talk whatever you feel bad about a person in front of him and in absence of the person we should not talk at all about the person or even if we talk we need to talk about the good aspects about him". This if we observe that it will cause a good impression about the person and also about us. We need to start analyzing the character initially when we talk with a person so that we don't fall prey for backbiting and double crossing.

Above all I want to conclude my post by telling that we need to have 100% faith on god which is the most important experience which I have faced in life. 100% faith in god + hard work can bring out wonders in person's life.
I have written this post based on my experiences alone. Please let me know about your honest comments after reading this post.